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Can Parents be Friends to their Children?

September 13, 2010

Can Parents be Friends to their Children?

What are your thoughts on this? Do you think parents can be both disciplinarians and friends to their kids? Leave me your thoughts and comments. Let's have a discussion on this important matter.

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Parents should draw the line in the sand to show their children where discipline takes presedence. I believe friendship between parents and their child is a must. Parenthood first tho; it creates respect in the relationship.

Joe, you hit the nail on the head. I'd have to agree! Parents need to be the disciplinarians first and foremost. But that doesn't mean that they cannot be there as a friend for their child as well. The problem is . . . sometimes parents dont want to be rejected by the child as the child grows older. The parents want to think of themselves as 'cool'. That's when they'll come into trouble. Being a 'cool' parent is being a parent who cares enough to draw that line when a child errors. Thanks for the input, cuz!

Wow, this is kind of a touchy subject. When my kids were very little (maybe 2 or 3) one of them said to me "you're not my best friend"! Of course being the strict parent that I am my answer was very simple "that's right, I am not your friend, I am your mother and don't forget it". I think some parents spend way too much time wanting to be friends with their kids, especially as they get older so that their kids stay close with them. But the truth is, children need to have a heathly respect for their parents - especially when they are in their teens. I have so much respect and love for my parents, and only until I became an adult did I realize a lot of that is because I never wanted to disappoint them, not because they were my buddies. This is not to say you shouldn't be friendly and have fun with your kids - I just think that it is much more healthy for parents to have their own friends, kids to have their own friends and parents to take the role as parents a bit more seriously. I really believe if that happens, you leave the door open to have a greater friendship with your kids when they are adults.



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